Our Philosophy & Approach
Kids would behave if they could.
When they misbehave, they’re telling us they need our help.
Disruptive behavior is a kid’s effort to protect themselves from painful emotions.
It’s our job as parents, and important other adults in kids’ lives, to stay calm and try to figure out what our kids need and what they tell us with their disruptive behavior.
You can’t change your kid’s temperament.
Parents need to work with what they have.
This takes a HUGE mindset change.
It’s time to let go of trying to “fix” your kids.
Your child or teen has their own unique way of dealing with things.
If there are issues with how your kid behaves or handles life situations, you can get them expert support to figure out what’s really going on, so they can be their best selves.
We can help with this!
For many years, we’ve worked with kids and families just like yours.
Do you want your kid to be:
- Optimistic & Positive
- Emotionally Healthy
- Honest & Open
Here’s the thing – children and teens need help learning to control their emotions and behaviors to develop these qualities.
How does the Center for Child Counseling help?
Kids need to feel a sense of warmth, patience, calm, encouragement, consistency, reliability, predictability, and safety from their parents.
This is how they’ll grow into trusting, emotionally healthy people capable of fully enjoying life, as well as dealing with disappointments, frustrations, worries, and relationships.
Parents are the keepers of their kids’ feelings, especially early in life.
When parents can hold and tolerate a range of feelings, model positive coping skills, and remain calm and patient, kids learn how to manage their feelings and behaviors.
Our therapists help families with this.
All kids fall on a continuum (of sorts) of social/emotional development.
Some kids are easy going, flexible, relaxed, and don’t present a lot of parenting challenges.
At some point, most kids struggle in their social/emotional development.
For kids with more sensitive temperaments, they feel things in a bigger way and react in a bigger way to most things.
For kids who experience things in a bigger way, they just need some extra help.
A parent’s relationship with their child or teen is the most important ingredient for healthy social and emotional development.
We help kids figure out what causes their feelings and behaviors.
We supply kids with an extra dose of the basic things they need to grow and develop, like patience, calm, encouragement, and a sense of consistency, predictability, and safety.
We teach kids ways to manage their emotions and behaviors.
We teach parents how to strategically use their relationship with their child or teen to help their kid be their best self, develop the qualities they hope for them, and be able to handle any stress that comes their way.
“Before having my son, I felt such a desire to have a child and was very much of the mindset that – ‘I know this is going to be hard, but other people have kids every day! I’m smart and strong, I’ll figure it out as I go!’ But it has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and I’ve never felt so incompetent.”
— Anonymous Parent
Why does your child or teen struggle with their emotions and behaviors?
It could be any number of reasons, like…
…their parents divorcing,
…trying to adjust to a new sibling,
…experiencing any big family change,
…struggling with school, or
…not fitting in with their peers.
You want a specialist who really knows kids and works exclusively with kids and their parents.
Why choose the Center for Child Counseling?
We work exclusively with children, teens, and their parents.
When children or teens are stressed, they don’t often have the words to describe what’s happening for them.
Instead, they act on their feelings. Their behaviors are their words.
We’re experts at decoding kids’ behaviors.
We help them, and their parents, understand the best ways to build self-esteem, deal with emotions, and keep behaviors under control.
Our areas of specialty include:
- Child and adolescent development
- Emotional and mental health
- Social, school, and relationship issues
- Family problems
- Parenting support and coaching
How does this work?
Kids need their own space to talk or play out what’s on their mind. They need someone who can help decipher how they feel and know the right ways to deal with it.
It doesn’t matter how open you are with your child or teen.
It doesn’t matter how many times you tell them they can come to you with anything.
They worry about upsetting you or adding more stress to your life.
They just might not want to talk with you. Sometimes, they just need a space of their own.
It’s about how we help.
Older kids and adolescents usually love talking with their therapist about things that are on their mind – their worries, fears, mood, behaviors, family issues, school, friends, and the good things going on in their life.
If they have trouble sharing what’s on their mind, sometimes drawing, playing games, or reading stories with the therapist helps them let go of some of those feelings.
The therapist is there to help kids find ways to talk about things, come to understand them, and figure out ways to work them out.
For younger children, play is how they communicate.
It’s how they learn to think and do things, learn about emotions and behaviors, interact with others, and feel a sense of control and competence in a world where they have very little power, and everything is so much bigger than them.
Through play and the child therapist’s guidance, children can turn their anxieties, frustration, or sadness into whatever they want and gain mastery over it.
They have control and feel strong; these issues no longer control them.
Behavioral change is possible.
With children and adolescents, our goal is to go beyond the surface to uncover and deal with the root cause of the problem.
This is what brings truly meaningful, long lasting personality and behavior change.
It takes some commitment, time, and effort. But it’s worth it, because it’s not just a band aid solution that provides a temporary fix and keeps having to be readdressed.
Therapy sets kids on a healthy path as adults.
Children, adolescents, and their parents can better understand the cause of their feelings and behaviors, what purpose they serve, and learn specific skills and strategies to deal with them.
This not only helps alleviate the current problem, but it helps to heal the underlying issues that contributed to the problem in the first place.
We’re here to meet your needs.
Our therapy process is tailored to meet the unique needs of your child or adolescent and family.
This usually includes some combination of the following:
- Individual therapy sessions with kids
- Play therapy sessions with young children
- Developmental assessments
- Support, coaching, and feedback sessions with parents
- Individual sessions with parents
- Parent and child (including infants) or adolescent sessions
- Family sessions
What’s the value of therapy?
Therapy for kids can give them an edge up on their development.
It helps them understand who they are, and they learn what triggers big feelings and reactions and how to handle it.
Kids build self-esteem and confidence. Therapy frees up a kid’s mental space to focus on academics, positive peer relationships, and strong family relationships.
It also gives them the tools to deal with future stress and disappointments and enjoy the good things that come their way.
Therapy can help!
Please know that as a boutique child and adolescent specialty practice, we take only a limited number of clients, and I carefully select highly trained therapists.
This is done with great purpose and thought. It’s so that we can really focus our attention on YOUR child or teen’s situation, and find the best solution for YOUR family.
Also, know that we NEVER solicit reviews from parents, as we understand that many of our families value a high level of privacy.
Some parents have taken it upon themselves to send us notes of appreciation, which you can read in our Testimonials. These parents wished to share their thoughts and experience, to offer encouragement, support, and to let other parents know they are not alone.
You are not alone, and we can help.
Be the CHANGE for your kids.
Set them up for SUCCESS and lifelong HAPPINESS by giving them the opportunity to work through their feelings and learn to manage their behaviors. There’s no greater gift.
Contact us TODAY at 630-423-6039 for a FREE no-obligation phone consultation to get your kids the help they deserve.