Anxiety & Big Emotions
Parenting a child or teen with anxiety and big emotions requires the patience of a saint, the mindfulness of a detective and the skills of a ninja all rolled into one…
You must stay calm and comforting while figuring out what is going on in their head.
You might also have to dodge a loud and aggressive reaction in the process.
Parents deal with a lot of confusing emotional states in their kids, like these…
A Crying Baby
Your baby is crying… Is he hungry? You offer food and get it pushed right back at you. Then even louder crying and a look of utter disappointment in his little face. This makes you feel like total failure.
A Middle of the Night Fussy Infant
You’re up all night pacing, swaying and rocking your fussy infant who just can’t seem to settle. Your slightest wrong move makes your little one more upset each time. You’re not sure how long this will continue and what you can do to get it to stop.
A Terrified & Sleepless Toddler
No amount of reassuring or pleading with your toddler that monsters aren’t under their bed calms their fears and gets them to sleep in their room. How can you help her so that she doesn’t keep coming to your bed in the middle of the night, every night?
A Tantruming Preschooler
It’s so draining to feel like you’re always walking on eggshells with your preschooler. Just say or do something wrong and you’ll trigger a huge screaming tantrum…
A School-Aged Child Power Struggle
Trying to get your school-aged child to work on homework before having screen time results in a massive meltdown where your child tells you how totally unfair and mean you are and how much they don’t like you.
A Stressed Out Teen
Today your teen is stressing out about how to study for an upcoming math test that they need to get a good grade on to keep up their GPA for college. At the same time, it seems they are trying to keep up with the numerous new Snapchat messages they’ve gotten in the past hour.
Tomorrow, they’re lying in bed with a “stomach ache” feeling like the world is against them and they have no friends. How can you possibly help them stop this?
Whew! It’s tough being a kid today… and just as hard being a parent!
You know that all kids (even babies) have emotions, so why is it incredibly frustrating and exhausting trying to deal with big emotions?
Here’s what everyone should know about the emotional life of kids…
The truth is, some kids come into the world with a more sensitive temperament.
What does this mean?
It means they tend to experience life and take things in more intensely.
Basically, they feel things bigger. When they feel things bigger, they react bigger.
Kids experience a wide range of feelings from sad, frustrated and angry to anxious, worried and fearful to happy and excited. Feelings and emotions affect a person’s mood.
Anxiety is one of the biggest emotions affecting kids’ moods.
- School work is demanding.
- Families are busy and have less time together.
- Schedules are overbooked.
- Kids feel pressured to be successful in everything they do.
- Bullying is widespread.
- Kids feel the need to constantly compare themselves to others and seek admiration.
- Social media is overwhelming, and kids try to keep up for fear of missing out.
All these things can create intense worry and stress and result in anxious kids.
Here’s how anxiety and other big feelings show themselves in kids.
Recognize any of these?
- Frequent and/or intense meltdowns and tantrums
- Continuous whining and fussiness
- Extreme clinginess
- Excessive worry about things like grades, friendships, weight and appearance, personal skills like being the best in a sport or other activity
- Pessimistic self-thoughts like “I can’t do this, I’m stupid”
- Social withdrawal and isolation
- Irrational fears
- A need to be liked by others and seek their approval
- Stressing out about everyday life tasks
Watch to see a preschooler and teenagers talk about what it’s like for them with their anxiety.
As parents, it’s our job to help our kids manage their feelings.
But, when our attempts at understanding and empathizing with our child or teen fail, our anger, fear and insecurity kicks in.
Then we guilt ourselves about feeling this way and we get stuck. We don’t know what to do to help our kids.
It’s a helpless feeling…
Anxiety and other big emotions don’t have to control your child or teen and you don’t have to fix it yourself.
We can help. Helping families like yours is what we do.
Here’s how we help…
We’ll give your child or teen a place to explore and learn to understand the roots of their anxiety and big emotions.
When we know what’s truly causing the feelings, we can make changes that are long lasting.
Your child or teen can learn about emotions and how they work…that they are instinctive and normal, but sometimes these emotions can take over and get in the way of school, family, friends, and fun.
We’ll help your child or teen strengthen their self-esteem so they can handle stress in healthy ways without their emotions taking over.
Anxious about your child or teen’s anxiety? Worried about their mood?
Your child or teen can learn ways to manage their anxiety and big feelings.
You can learn how to connect with your child or teen in a deeper, empathic way.
Help your kids take back control of their emotions and bring them, and yourself, some peace NOW.
There’s no reason to wait. This will not go away on its own.
Contact us TODAY at 630-423-6039 for a FREE no-obligation phone consultation and get your kids the help they deserve with their anxiety and big emotions.